THIS MIGHT HELP??

Kofi Annan · Post by **Kofi Annan** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 3:41 pm

Stumbling block: Creating,them and us situations?
"Did you hear what theyre plotting against us now.?"

In masculine, autonomy-oriented supporters clubs etc, fans can find that socialising together to create a deeper connection helps to counter feelings of alienation. Between themselves, they can provide a community of mutual support. But this has its dangers. fans grouped for solidarity against officildom may also unite their opposition! Heavy adversarial approaches can make interdependent people highly uncomfortable and so they will often band together as a group. When they become involved in ongoing conflicts, they can be poisoned by gossiping and can stir each other to greater division. Internal fractures in the group are also likely when these dynamics get out of hand. Petty rivalries and infighting can become particularly bitter.

Stepping stones
If you find yourself involved in such struggles, asking yourself these questions might help:

What is at stake here? Are we being competitive? If so, why? Is it:

the need for recognition?
a cover for feelings of inadequacy?
an urge to establish a separate identity?
Or is it:
representative of a genuine difference of opinion that needs to be resolved?
Look for solutions to these problems rather than participating in ugly rivalries.
AUTONOMY: stumbling blocks and stepping stones
We seek autonomy to be free, to feel independent and have our own sense of identity. Ultimately, autonomy is the freedom to be ourselves; to be self-reliant, empowered, willing to lead and able to function alone; being prepared to stand up for a different opinion we believe in.

Often we clutch at autonomy by standing against others rather than alongside them. Are we seeking autonomy by shutting other people out? Are we rejecting the influence of other decision-makers in our work? Do we see leadership as an all-or-nothing role rather than a flexible function that may rotate within the group? Are we failing to recognise and respect our daily reliance upon other people? Or are we failing to build solid channels of communication? When we succumb to these stumbling blocks, the drive towards autonomy can become a limiting rather than a freeing force in our lives.

This is free of charge if anyone should require a one to one please PM (thinking of quite a few)

dead ball · Post by **dead ball** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 4:19 pm

Sod off!

ding dong2u · Post by **ding dong2u** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 4:25 pm

Kofi Annan · Post by **Kofi Annan** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 7:10 pm

Tut tut DeadBall i sense hostility

dead ball · Post by **dead ball** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 7:14 pm

Was that Desmond?

Mid-Terrace · Post by **Mid-Terrace** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 7:30 pm

Don't mess with him!!!

Rooster · Post by **Rooster** » Wed Jan 04, 2006 11:19 pm

If Kofi calls in his mates George W and Tony we are all in trouble

is the beer tent nuke proof

Kofi Annan · Post by **Kofi Annan** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 12:28 am

Beer Tent option one

Scoop option two

Rooster · Post by **Rooster** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 12:30 am

Always knew it was safer in the beer tent

ballpark · Post by **ballpark** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 8:03 am

Next thing you know he'll want to open a conflict resolution museum on the forum.

mid ulster maestro · Post by **mid ulster maestro** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 9:41 am

I thought that had been tried already.
Mum

B.Y.O · Post by **B.Y.O** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 2:06 pm

QUOTE,

Stepping stones
If you find yourself involved in such struggles, asking yourself these questions might help:

What is at stake here? Are we being competitive? If so, why? Is it:

the need for recognition?
a cover for feelings of inadequacy?
an urge to establish a separate identity?
Or is it:
representative of a genuine difference of opinion that needs to be resolved?
Look for solutions to these problems rather than participating in ugly rivalries.
AUTONOMY: stumbling blocks and stepping stones
We seek autonomy to be free, to feel independent and have our own sense of identity. Ultimately, autonomy is the freedom to be ourselves; to be self-reliant, empowered, willing to lead and able to function alone; being prepared to stand up for a different opinion we believe in.

Often we clutch at autonomy by standing against others rather than alongside them. Are we seeking autonomy by shutting other people out? Are we rejecting the influence of other decision-makers in our work? Do we see leadership as an all-or-nothing role rather than a flexible function that may rotate within the group? Are we failing to recognise and respect our daily reliance upon other people? Or are we failing to build solid channels of communication? When we succumb to these stumbling blocks, the drive towards autonomy can become a limiting rather than a freeing force in our lives.

This is free of charge if anyone should require a one to one please PM (thinking of quite a few)

YOU POMPOUS, PATRONISING, CONDESCENDING T0SSER!
(ARE YOU THE NEW CHAIRMAN?)

Cap'n Grumpy · Post by **Cap'n Grumpy** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 2:47 pm

Now, now, BoYO!

No need to be so NEGATIVE towards others' points of view?

You'll be getting yourself a reputation for being a "rogue"over in Scoop if you're not careful!

Cockatrice · Post by **Cockatrice** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 2:59 pm

Only thing that I will add is regarding last line.

This is free of charge if anyone should require a one to one please PM (thinking of quite a few)

Decided to pm and seek advice none was forthcoming.[/quote]

Gary · Post by **Gary** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 3:02 pm

You all gotta admit though - you can see why he runs the UN.